Harmony at Home: Introducing Your New Puppy/Kitten to Young Children
When adults look back at their childhoods, we may enjoy fond memories of frolicking around the backyard with a favorite pet, inventing games together, playing fetch at the park, or simply snoozing in a hammock. Reminiscing about an animal sidekick may inform the present-day decision to provide a similar experience for our own families. Introducing a new puppy or kitten to young children has the potential to be one of the sweetest experiences, but it must be done with an eye on everyone’s safety and comfort.
What Does “Gentle” Mean?
Kids and young animals have many things in common, but a primary example is their similar approach to touch. Both small children and young puppies/kittens have little-to-no understanding of how they affect others. For example, kids try to pet animals but instead press rather aggressively, pull the fur, or yank on tails. Pets, on the other hand, tend to nip/bite or scratch without necessarily intending to cause harm.
- Both parties should be introduced to the word “gentle” as soon as possible, and given numerous, consistent reminders about the meaning.
- Show a child what you mean by gently petting a kitten or puppy, and which areas are preferred by the animal (and which places to avoid, like the face).
- Train a pet to play gently by constantly redirecting them to appropriate items to chew or scratch until they demonstrate an understanding.
Body Language
Kids love to learn, and you can teach them to be experts at spotting key body language from their pets. Teach them how a pet looks when they feel scared, threatened, or unsafe. Show your child how to make a pet feel better (it may involve giving the pet some space) and discuss the many features of your young pet’s common behaviors. It’s a fun learning experience that can improve a kid’s empathy skills, and promote pet safety and well-being.
The Thing About Boundaries
Young animals love to be the center of attention, and so do kids. However, the spotlight can’t always be shared. Be sure that your puppy or kitten has the opportunity to seek out their own space when they need some alone time. Ensure that your child knows that this is an off-limits zone, and they can play with their new best friend when they decide to leave the protected space.
Tips for Introducing Pets to Children
To get things going on the right foot, we encourage the following tips:
- Go slowly, never force a child or a pet to rush into the ideal friendship. It will evolve naturally over time (give or take 3 months).
- Stay calm and neutral.
- Keep voice volume down (inside voices).
- If appropriate, invite your child to help with pet care, like feeding, grooming, and picking up after the puppy or kitten.
- Teach careful handling and reinforce the idea that your child cannot force cuddles.
- Try for space separation at first, slowly expanding your pet’s territory over time.
Our vets and staff are always happy to assist you at Leon Valley Veterinary Hospital. Please call us at (210) 681‑1391 with any questions or concerns about introducing a new pet to your family.